I joined Facebook in 2008. I had recently attended one of my mom’s annual family reunions, and heard so many of my relatives were on there. I thought I’d sign up in order to see what they’re up to.
Facebook has many positives for someone like me. I don’t spend much, if any, time out of my house (unless you count getting groceries and helping my dad with his bricklaying business). Facebook is a great way to meet people without having to be face to face. I may never actually these people in person, but I’d still consider them friends. (In fact, most of the people I’ve interviewed for my “One Faith, Many Paths” series are people I know from Facebook)
I’ve also joined a few autism groups on Facebook. Many of the people in these groups are so proud to be autistic that they even put the first two letters in the word “autism” in their username, either at the end or in the middle. These letters also stand for a movement on Facebook called Autism United, a group dedicated to a positive image for autism online. I was inspired to join in, so I inserted an AU into my username as well, right at the end.
Then came a problem. There are trolls on Facebook who are using fake names to set up accounts for their heinous activities. Facebook decided that everyone with a fake name was guilty of trolling, whether they did it or not. (I wouldn’t know the first thing about hacking someone else’s page, for the record.) This resulted in a new policy: fake names would no longer be allowed on Facebook. To Facebook, this included people with suffixes as well, like the AU that I had in my name. This despite suffixes being used often in names like Hank Williams Jr. and Dale Earnhardt Jr. (I think that’s how it’s spelled).
This new policy gave cyberbullies a new way to bully others. They sought out people like me who had “AU’ in their usernames and reported many of them. Eventually, I was reported and deleted. When your page gets deleted, you get no notice, not even an e-mail. So, when a bully reported me, I had no idea my page was deleted. All I knew was that my username and password no longer worked. I sent an e-mail to Facebook and got a confirmation code, so I thought that would help. No dice–they only work if your page is still up. After several tries, I finally realized what happened. I was now one of the victims. I had two options. First, I could send Facebook proof of my identification and wait 60 days. 60 DAYS! The second option was to get a new e-mail and create a whole new account. Waiting 60 days was out of the question. I did not want the bullies to think they won.
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